5 Strategies for a Successful Divorce The Docket July 18, 2019 Family law Article Submitted By Rojas Law Firm Have you and your partner decided to separate? One of the first things you need to do is consider how you’ll start moving through the divorce process. Dealing with a divorce can be quite difficult; however, utilizing strategies for communication and mental wellness during this time can be quite beneficial. The right strategies can help both you and your partner communicate clearly with one another and focus on moving forward. Here’s what you need to know. Communicate with each other regularly One of the most important strategies for divorce success is open and frequent communication. Talking with your partner about your expectations and desires for the divorce is very important. This lets them know what to expect and what is important to you during this process. Remember that your partner isn’t a mind reader. No matter how long you were married for, you may have different goals when it comes to the separation. Speak directly with your partner to ensure there is no miscommunication in how you want to proceed. Avoid placing blame Although it may be easy to point fingers, it’s important that you try not to. Divorce is a stressful time for everyone involved. Your partner may feel like you are the primary reason for the divorce, while you might be certain it is entirely their fault. The reality is that there are many contributing factors to any divorce, so try to avoid placing blame and instead focus on how to proceed forward in a healthy way. Attend counseling together Whether you decide to move forward with your divorce or you want to see if you can save your relationship, it may be a good idea to attend counseling together. Counseling sessions offer a number of benefits, including allowing you to enhance your communication abilities. If you and your partner share custody of your children, counseling can be even more important. Your children may have many different emotions to deal with during the divorce. Counseling can help them learn to express themselves and deal with those emotions in a healthier way. Avoid speaking poorly about one another Unfortunately, you may feel tempted to speak negatively about your partner. This is a normal part of the divorce, especially if you feel that you have been personally wronged by your spouse’s behavior. It’s important that you try to avoid gossiping or trash-talking your partner, especially if you have shared friendships or you have children. While venting is a natural part of the divorce process, speaking negatively about your spouse to many different people may complicate the divorce process, especially if some of the things you say about your partner are untrue. Be honest Make sure you communicate honestly and effectively with both your partner and your attorney. While the temptation to be deceitful during this time may be strong, make sure you focus on moving carefully and ethically through the divorce process. Avoid hiding your assets and instead, be upfront with your attorney about what you have. This will help them to advise and guide you. When you’re ready to separate from your spouse, make sure you consult with an attorney who can help facilitate the divorce process. Consider your personal situation before you finalize your decision. Aida Rojas can provide a detailed consultation and determining what your best options might be. Contact her office when you are ready at 210. 299.4600.